Frequently Asked Questions…
- I personally believe that my education, experience and knowledge of the integration of theology and psychology, various counseling theories, coaching approaches and techniques, my understanding of human behavior-childhood & adolescent development and the bio-psycho-social-spiritual aspects of people’s problems, daily teaching on life skills and coping/planning through transitions, has proved to be very effective with my clients. Especially with my clients who feel: stuck, unworthy, rejected, forgotten, and lost. This skill set contributes to the coaching process because both I and the client can pin-point underlying issues that may need brief addressing before following through with the tasks and goals developed to enhance their quality of life, and actualize goals. Many of my approaches used to help my clients are coupled with life coaching and assessment and consulting to see where you’re at and services needed initially.
- All pastoral counseling is free because it is a ministry but we do ask for donations for those who ONLY want Christian counseling Here.
- As your coach, I may use techniques such as role-play, scripts and scenario-illustrations for practicing and processing new behavior/outlook/communication/approaches, etc.
- As your coach I will partner with you through the process, make inquiries, explore your strengths/skill set, and challenge and push you to stay on tasks.
- I will naturally incorporate my sense of humor, affirmations and constructive criticism with compassion.
- Expect your coach to be a reflective listener and empathetic towards you.
- I will sometimes assign homework activities for you work on during your own time.
- I will guide you to implement a plan/method/focus that’s appropriate and right for your personality type.
- Another one of my approaches is Encouragement through spiritual warfare-helping you identify barriers, negative energy/things that deplete from your life instead of adding value, and calling/naming out irrational or negative thoughts and programmed/preconditioned beliefs or perceptions that distract you and rob you of your determination/fire to get your life back on track. Your situations doesn’t have to leave you feeling incapacitated or crippled. When we identify and are aware/knowledgeable of what’s holding us back, we become empowered and that barrier or negative belief loses its power over us because it can not longer hide. A demon is more powerful when it is hidden because then it can deceive you. The Bible states in Hosea 4:6 that, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.”
- Life Coaching: helps emotionally and psychologically well-adjusted clients explore short and long-term goals, identify barriers to achieving those goals, develop and action plan to achieve goals and overcome barriers, act as an accountability partner and live calendar to keep clients on track, check in, follow up and assist. Coaches may use direct communication that are both empathetic and forward/challenging/firm. The coach’s goal is to help clients move forward in goal-attainment.
- Counseling may be Medical-Modeled or DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) based, which focuses on emotional issues, pathology-abnormal psychology, physical and/or mental health that may indicate and/or classify outward symptoms of inner issues as a syndrome or disorder. Whereas, coaching focuses on helping others focus on establishing and achieving goals and playing a supportive and assertive role in an effort to encourage and move people along this journey of making life changes such as organizing and re-prioritizing time, relationships, career, academia, parenting, home, and more through a plan of action and accountability.
- Keep in mind that all coaches and counselors have different skill sets and experiences so I do not discredit any other counselor or coach’s techniques and concentrations. I am merely explaining the benefit of my own approach to helping individuals and constantly developing my own model of techniques and expertise tailored to help my clients.
- Most ethical, professional and realistic coaches refer their clients to other professionals who specialize in specific areas in the health field. For example: I am not a physician, psychiatrist or licensed mental health professional so if I encounter a disorder or biological/physical problem that is beyond my expertise or because I don’t have the proper state licensing, I refer to these individuals: Licensed Clinical Social Worker/Psychiatrist/Psychologist/Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist/Licensed Professional Counselor or Licensed Mental Health Counselor. However, I am a Qualified Mental Health Professional so I am able to provide pastoral counseling at which I would recommend that you receive that separate service not to be included with life coaching.
- I do implement life coaching approaches with clients that are based on a Christian Worldview and with an understanding and knowledge of the human development (life span) and inner-issues that affect the mind, body and spirit in conjunction with working on goals in order to move forward in your life’s goals.
- Understanding their plight, gives me insight and discernment into their underlying issues, and the Holy Spirit gives either me or both (me and the client) revelation and wisdom as to where to start and where to go.
- You don’t necessarily have to have a degree or formal training in counseling, social work, mental health, psychology, psychiatry or marriage and family therapy but understanding the person as a whole (holistically) can really add value and depth to coaching.
- Some coaches may tell you that counseling only entails listening to the client; exploring and understanding the client’s issues but on the contrary, counseling also entails vast techniques and interventions and coaching is one approach used.
- Some clients can not move ahead if they are mentally and emotionally stuck!
- Both Counseling and coaching use an approach that helps the client to answer many of their own questions through exploring and questioning from the coach.
- Both counseling and coaching can motivate the client to move forward and really set some goals, and develop an action plan.
- One of my favorite approaches in coaching is a technique I learned in social work training called “Motivational Interviewing.” (This is basically motivating a person who feels stuck or who has an addiction, to move from the stage of pre-contemplation, and from contemplation to action) and make the necessary lifestyle modifications to ensure success.
- As a coach, I oft use life and relationship coaching everyday to help my clients to either strengthen or reconcile relationships with family and friends or sever dysfunctional relationships. Coaches facilitate client’s plan of action and encourage them on. Life coaching helps people to become empowered to live purposeful and fulfilled lives. And coaching helps individuals to feel less lonely especially if the coach is their only/main source of support. Many who seek out coaches also learn to cope emotionally and psychologically while working-remaining proactive because many times performing simple tasks such as decluttering and organizing the home and/or space can help people feel focused, clear and functional because they can get better at managing tasks and goals, overcome external and internal barriers before or as they move on, and some of my clients have to be retrained and encouraged to socialize-integrate-engage-cope-adjust-manage-control-problem solve and much more. These are some of the steps and issues many of us have to work on while moving forward in areas we may lack in that create barriers to achieving our life’s goals.
- And as a Christian Life Coach, I sometimes incorporate and encourage spiritual disciplines which could include: (prayer, invoking the spirit of God to intervene (Holy Spirit) fasting, meditating, worship & devotion and scripture reading) which empowers me to effectively help the client. God knows us best!
- Individuals feeling stuck,
- Battling with the spirit of procrastination,
- Struggle with goal attainment,
- Who see the glass half empty,
- Who need to work on changing their perspective/life outlook,
- In need of cheerleaders/encouragement/affirmation,
- Find it difficult to maintain a decent level of optimism/motivation/tenacity,
- Need assistance with planning, organizing life-career and academia goals,
- Need a reality check!
- Need to make other personal improvements.
I have worked with clients, friends and family members who were able to achieve major milestones in their life as a result of life-coaching but they still face/battle with demons (old issues) that tend to creep up on them and tempt them to become cripple again. I have experienced this myself and that is why I like this combo approach to helping people. This is a part of spiritual warfare. This is why we need the word of God, and the Holy Spirit to empower us to overcome, conquer and live as victors and not victims…Get Your Life Back!
There have always been negative connotations or stigmas associated or surrounding one who seek out counseling or therapy, and maybe even life coaching. It’s ignorance! Even professionals understand the value of having assistance or other helping roles to help then fulfill their business, career or personal goals and tasks. Why do directors; CEO’s, attorneys, pastors, CFO’s; teachers; mothers; etc., utilize these helping roles? Why do companies and organization form teams to work on projects or work with clients? Why does secretary, personal assistant, assistant, administrator, baby-sitter, or even a computer exist or are needed?
A. These all help people manage, organize, achieve goals, rearrange, prioritize, contact others, record, type, and remind.
B. We today are more aware and educated through wisdom and experience. There is absolutely no need to feel shame, embarrassment, condemned or judged.
Instead of driving yourself crazy about how are you going to make this and that happen, saying: “How can I do this or that?” “It’s too difficult!” “No time!” “Too old!” “Too young!” “Too big!” “Too small” or worrying about how long it will take or how to begin, or maybe you have fear of failure or success. These are some to the thoughts, concerns and fears that I myself have pondered but I began counseling and coaching myself, utilizing the spiritual disciplines such as meditating on the word of God, praying, fasting and believing, and prioritizing and re-prioritizing and pressing with tenacity, blocking any negative traffic possible and know that “All things are possible through Christ which strengthens me! I focused on scripture affirmations such as, “With man, things are impossible but with God all things are possible” or “God will not withhold any good thing to those who walk upright before Him” and “Don’t worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; … Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?” and so on…
- Looking for a Christian Life Coach who practice(s) what she preach? Need to know what it may cost?