NURTURING YOUR MARRIAGE & REGAINING INTIMACY

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As a Certified Pastoral Counselor and Christian Life Coach, one of my focuses and purpose is helping couples in their purpose to restore their relationship through increasing cohesion, improving communication, promoting forgivenness and hope, and restoring or increasing their level of intimacy

Something I wrote (while on my pastoral ministerial soap box) on marital intimacy after reading and gleaning from  “ Strengthening marital intimacy” by  Ronald E. Hawkins

Marriage today is in trouble and the divorce rate is high even within the church. Because of this fact, there have arrived many marriage and family programs, marital help books, seminars and marriage enrichment ministries that are designed to help nurture and strengthen marriages, and equip premarital couples. There are various societal and internal influences that affect couples and these influences are broadening such as negative poor examples of families on television shows, the lack of understanding of what God’s intent and purpose in marriage, depletion and lack of intimacy and commitment, emotional, spiritual and psychological issues that each partner in a marriage carries.

These factors cause wear and tear on the amount of intimacy, nurturance (providing emotional and physical support & care), and EFFECTIVE/POSITIVE communication in marriage. The truth is that God is no longer the third strand in many marital relationships, and society along with its people have deterred from God and His plan and values on marriage, found in the book of Ephesians 5:22.  Resource: The author Ronald E. Hawkins wrote a book titled, “Strengthening Marital Intimacy.” His book addresses God’s design, marriage goals, commitment, sexuality, the foundation of marriage, communication and more. Studies have shown that strong marriage are beneficial to society because they add stability and a sense of community, and this ‘sacred’ institute creates financial stability as well because two people coming together create less of a financial strain within a household and can also provide financial support for both individuals in a marriage.

In regards to maintaining marital intimacy, without welcoming spiritual wisdom, directions, and influence from God, intimacy is often lost in a marriage and if any, marriage goals dissolve. It takes much prayer and effort to both build and maintain a strong marriage. Hawkins note, “God-honoring marriages do not just happen. They are the result of diligent prayer and hard work on the part of both husband and wife.”[1]Wisdom is revealed by God to help marriages. Marriage is no longer viewed and valued as a sacred and godly ordained institution. It is now treated as a daunting unbiblical relationship without the spiritual disciplines of prayer, and consulting the Bible for direction and governing.

Reference:

[1]Ronald E. Hawkins, Strengthening marital intimacy, (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House, 1991): 10.  

GOT AN OIL? Look-a-hear…

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Lookahear, I understand that your social presence, growing influence, testimonials, experiences, products, knowledge and growth gained, as you go along, and even for those who are like myself, who steps out on faith and into unfamiliar territory while feeling uncomfortable and unsure (as with the Children of Israel following God’s lead to a land that He promised -flowing with milk & honey-translated as prosperous and wealth)…which may include several wilderness experiences and lessons to be learned…has helped you reach this point, and…

You may find that you have been empowered and blessed to be in a position to be a blessing to others. You may not be expecting to hear these next two words, essential engine, ingredients and juice that I’m about to mention that is the best and most important element and power to possess in our endeavors to become successful in purpose, business, ministry, etc.

Lookahear, there is another fact and reason as to why many of you are where you are and seeing the fruits of your labor. And, these are key to those of you who are just stepping out to pursue your purpose…Here it is, Two words, Having the “Anointing” to do it! And the “Favor” of God that creates opportunity and put you in the right environment and before great people holding the next answer and key to your next level. I’m done! Selah…

Got an anointing? What do you have an oil for? (An oil is another way of saying, what area are you anointed in? What are you anointed to do?

Understand that anointing comes from God but also, God will anoint you in the pressing, processing and grinding.  Three of the reasons why Olive Oil is symbolic for the anointing is because of how the oil from the olives are produced, and the health benefits of olive oil. Thus, some of the reasons it was and is, used to position someone to an elevated place/level such as a king, Queen or clergy. Many of these examples can be found in the Bible, throughout history and in many cultures including the Church.

Your Homework: Research the awesomeness of fire and its purification qualities and power, and the process of producing olive oil from olives. Seek to understand the pressing technique before bottling it for our use. Point is, An anointing is also produce through our pushing, grinding, praying, believing, being processed, pressing and growing toward our God-given purpose! Part two of this content will come soon…where I will break down more about pressing, going through the process of what it takes to mature, become successful and educated, and having faith even when you feel like throwing in the towel. 

 

I Have Something in STORE for You

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Presenting my online Astore on GYLB

With that said, IF there is something specific that you’re looking for and don’t see it in my store, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE shoot me an email getyourlifeback7@gmail.com and I will try my best to add it. Here’s the link to the store Cheryl’s Nurtured Naturally Store

*Note my products of choice are related to the mission and goal of Get Your Life Back! Okay, so now, you can go on over and browse through the categories.

 

5 Easy Strategies for Managing Emotions & Stress

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I work in a sometimes stressful career as a Qualified Mental Health Professional, Pastoral Counselor and even Coaching, while on 24 hour Crisis Call. You can imagine how I have to make it a practice to momentarily forget about my own issues and totally stay focused and attuned with my clients and their problems and issues. This selfless act is also important to incorporate in relationships when needed right.                   

I am so exhilarated and inspired. I just formulated a helpful Quick Reference Resource Guide “5 EASY WAYS TO HELP YOU MANAGE EMOTIONS AND STRESS.”
I want to share with you, five easy strategies that I teach my clients and often use myself, to maintain healthy stress levels, feel positive, think clearer and problem-solve better. These easy tips can help you manage negative emotions such as anger, and manage stress and anxiety.

Sometimes, it’s not about us but it’s about the other individual. Below are also interventions that I teach my clients who battle with anxiety, depression and constant high stress levels during sessions. We can all become better at maintaining emotional and psychological health. It helps us to prepare for encountering possible stressful and unpleasant situations.

If you or someone you know desires or needs to get into the habit of maintaining emotional wellness in order to manage stress, multi-task, improve job performance, juggle household and familial responsibilities, and even communicate better, Follow my blog via email or by signing up to receive the guide and I will send it to ASAP!

Empowerment Life Coaching Workshops

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In in effort to help women actualize their gifting & purpose, I’m initiating and facilitating life empowerment workshops for women in living public and affordable housing, other communities, churches, libraries and community centers where many do not or think they cannot access authentic empowering and inspirational life coaching without having to pay astronomical high fees but yet can majorly benefit…If you are in the Richmond VA area and are aware some communities where I can host these empowerment life coaching groups contact me via email or phone with the right individual to reach out to…

GYLB Women's Empowerment Community Workshops

Let Me Out! Here’s a Push!

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HEY EVERYONE, My book “Let Me Out!” IS NOW AVAILABLE ON KINDLE FOR ONLY $2.99. LET ME OUT!

MY DESIRE IS TO GET MY BOOK INTO THE HANDS OF THOSE WHO FEEL LIKE THE MISFIT, FEELING STUCK, NEED A BREAKTHROUGH, NEED SPIRITUAL STRATEGIES, NEED ENCOURAGEMENT TO SEEK THE FATHER CONCERNING ISSUES, WANT TO OVERCOME GENERATIONAL PATTERNS OF MISTAKES AND SO ON.

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I LOVE HEARING AND READING THE TESTIMONIALS OF THOSE WHO READ IT ALREADY SINCE ITS FIRST LAUNCH. BECAUSE OF THIS, I’M OFFERING ON KINDLE FOR ONLY $2.99 FOR A LIMITED TIME…HOPING TO DO BOOK TOURS AND SIGNINGS LOCALLY AND VIRTUAL TO REACH MORE PEOPLE. THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE! MAKES A GOOD GIFT AS WELL FOR SOMEONE ELSE SO SPREAD THE WORD.

Bury the past and live! Embrace your new identity in Christ! Be free! Forgive yourself! Tear down those rebellious walls that stifle you from moving forward. 

Spiritual warfare involves wearing the whole armor of God to cast out, divorce from evil works, root out, pluck up and rebuild as the case of Jeremiah’s mission, where God empowered and anointed the Prophet to destroy the corruptible nations and kingdoms only to rebuild them again, see Jeremiah Chapter 1. God spoke to Jeremiah’s fear of confrontation, leadership, speech, insecurity, youth, and more. If God can empower and use a Jeremiah, and a Moses who struggled with similar issues and countless others, then He can surely do the same in you.